七種傷害你的牧者的方法(Seven Ways to Hurt Your Pastor)-Thom Rainer(翻譯文章)

如果你真的想傷害你的牧者,那這個貼文大概是你想要的。

光過去的一個星期,我就與數十位牧者傾談過。他們都很委身他們的呼召。

但是他們都是有血有肉的人,是可以受傷害的。

這些跟我談話的牧者分享了七個很普遍傷害他們的經驗。因此,如果你真的要傷害你的牧者,就要小心跟隨這些指引了!

1. 批評牧者的家庭。批評牧者們的家庭是其中幾樣最傷害他們的東西,尤其是如果那些批評的事情是發生在教會。

2. 告訴牧者他的薪水太高了。有少數牧者確實能賺很多錢。但是卻有許多教會的弟兄姐妹,卻想讓牧者為了他們能得到薪水而難過。

3. 不為牧師辯護。批評可以是很傷害的,但更能傷害他們的,是當他們的牧者被謠言攻擊的時候,他們仍保持緘默,因此緘默在這中情況下並非是可取的。

4. 告訴你的牧者他的工作是多麼輕鬆。當有人胡謅牧者的工作其實一週只需工作十小時,這確實是刺到心坎裡的。有些人竟然真的相信牧者一個星期會有幾天假期。

5. 成為嘮叨的閒人。牧者們可以承受間中的批評,可是真正痛苦的是,與永遠都是負面的教會會友打交道。怎樣知道你在這方面已經很成功?就是當牧者看到你的時候就想辦法閃人。

6。 評論牧者的支出。我上週從一個牧者聽到這段話,有一個教會會友問:「為什麼你有錢去迪斯尼樂園?」哇!

7. 矮化並將你的牧者的講道和事工與另外一個牧者相比。很多時候那個會友是要讓你知道,他或她在網上喜歡的講員跟你相比是如何。如果你要傷害你的牧者,你要保證他知道他是多麼不濟!

如果你人生的目標是要傷害你的牧者,光這裡一個或數個方法就會成功。

但是如果你與其他好的教會會友一樣,事事為你的牧師著想,那麼你就要做與這七個原則相反的事情。

如果你擔心你的牧者不會保持謙卑,需要有人盯住他,不要擔心,在教會總有許多這樣的教會會友在身旁。

清楚這七個原則了嗎?那你還要增加一些嗎?

翻譯:李政斌

英文原文:

If you really want to hurt your pastor, then this blogpost is for you.

This past week alone, I had conversations with dozens of pastors. These pastors love their churches and the members. They are really committed to their callings.

But they are real people who can really be hurt.

The pastors I spoke with this past week shared with me seven common themes of the things that hurt them the most. So, if you really want to hurt your pastor, follow these guidelines carefully.

  1. Criticize the pastor’s family. Few things are as painful to pastors as criticizing their families, especially if the criticisms are related to issues in the church.
  2. Tell the pastor he is overpaid. Very few pastors really make much money. But there are a number of church members who would like to make the pastor feel badly about his pay.
  3. Don’t defend the pastor. Critics can be hurtful. But even more hurtful are those who remain silent while their pastor is verbally attacked. Silence is not golden in this case.
  4. Tell your pastor what an easy job he has. It can really sting when someone suggests that the pastor really only works about ten hours a week. Some actually believe that pastors have several days a week off.
  5. Be a constant naysayer. Pastors can usually handle the occasional critic. But the truly painful relationships are with church members who are constantly negative. How do you know you’ve succeeded in this regard? The pastor runs the other way when he sees you.
  6. Make comments about the pastor’s expenditures. I heard it from a pastor this past week. A church member asked, “How can you afford to go to Disney World?” Wow.
  7. Compare your pastor’s preaching and ministry unfavorably to that of another pastor. Many times the member wants you to know how much he or she likes that pastor on the podcast compared to you. If you really want to hurt your pastor, you can make certain he knows how inferior he is.

So, if your life’s goal is to hurt your pastor, one or more of these approaches will work just fine.

But, if you are like most good church members, you want the best for your pastor. So just do the opposite of these seven.

And if you are worried that your pastor will not remain humble unless someone puts him in his place, don’t worry. There will always be plenty of those other church members around.

Do you identify with these seven items? What would you add?

原文出處:http://thomrainer.com/2014/06/16/seven-ways-hurt-pastor/

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